Some seasons in life are easier to go through and some are harder. In some, we feel on top of the world and like things are going great. We know hardships will come, but we feel confident of sailing through them. Some of that confidence is built upon having gone through hard times before and/or we may feel that we have “paid our dues”. G-d forbid that our confidence should come from thinking we have “arrived”! There is always more to learn and more from which to be refined. This is a fact…and, sometimes, it is a rather painful fact.
Sometimes, being the subject of gossip is a part of a hard season. There is within us, this desire to stand up and shout at the world “that isn’t true” or “you misunderstand” or “don’t judge a whole family by the actions of one (or more) member”. Sometimes, you want to say “hey, try walking in my shoes and see if you would really do it any differently”. Whatever the reason for the gossip, whether it is based upon “truth” or is completely lies, it is a hard season to be in.
We can be thrust into a hard season by the actions of a family member or a loved one. It can be very easy to think that no one in “our” family (or group of close friends) would ever do (fill in the blank)…until someone does. “That may happen in other families,” we may think, “but not in ours!” Not our child, sibling, parent, spouse, friend! And then suddenly, something does happen.
At first, you are simply in shock and reeling while trying to get your bearings again. How do you make sense of your world when blindsided by the “unthinkable”? It sure isn’t easy. You are trying to learn to live with a deep wound in your heart and also figure out where You can find support.
Of course, as people of faith, the first place we should be able to go for support is our faith family. Correct? Sadly, not so correct. The body of Messiah is made up of very imperfect people. When we are going through a really hard season, we have to be very discerning and selective regarding who we allow to know the details. Yet, there is also a time for taking chances so that we do not completely isolate ourselves. The key is in knowing when and who to trust. I have no easy answer for that.
Our moving will give us a chance to start over in a new place. We won’t have all the work of Beit-Shalom hanging over us. We will not have people gossiping about us. We will be able to find, hopefully, a good Messianic congregation to attend in person. We will be able to build deeper relationships with some family members. Dave will have a chance to heal or get onto disability. We will be taken care of and will be able to be with family, possibly even until Yeshua comes back.
Whatever our heavenly Abba wants for us…that we will do.