I found a really good post on forgiveness. Forgiveness can be a very difficult thing to understand, especially for abuse survivors. This post spells it out pretty well. Forgiveness does NOT mean sacrificing justice!
From the article:
“…the process is not one of tolerating injustice, excusing wrongdoing, or a minimizing of harm that a person suffers because of injustice. Though the abused and the chronically wounded may fear the process of forgiveness because it feels like they’re required to “rubber stamp” the actions of their offender, step back and again consider that forgiveness is a long journey of change. It is actually a process of establishing justice and following it up with consequences along the way to the final destination. God never asks the abused to accept injustice, only to give up the right to collect on the debt owed. He wants to be the righteous One who can grant appropriate justice and vengeance to the guilty, and sometimes, He’s the source of restitution that justice brings when it doesn’t or cannot come from the offender directly.”