This is an article that explains how abuse affects the developing brain. It does not have to be physical abuse. Even emotional abuse causes physical changes that affect the person all of his or her life. These changes in the brain affect how we process life events around us. They can really impede our ability to handle life, which can cause all kinds of problems…even into adulthood. While therapy and counseling may help a person to cope, it won’t change the way the brain physically developed.
I am grateful for these discoveries because this helps me to understand my limitations and why I struggle in some areas. It also leaves hope for finding treatments that can really help. I have heard that the physical treatments used for brains that have suffered physical trauma from an accident are also helping some who have abuse trauma brains, but there is still a long way to go. The physical damage from a brain injury is not identical to the affected development of a traumatized child.
We who suffer from the effects of child abuse are not misfits. We have simply developed differently…not abnormally…just differently. We are very normal for having gone through what we have gone through. Our inability to handle certain things as well as others is not our fault. We are not being lazy or simply needing to “get over it”. A person who limps from a previous leg injury would not be judged for limping and neither should we be judged if our brains are “limping” in certain situations!
I hope that more and more people will learn about this and, as a result, judge us more kindly. We already have a lot to cope with without being judged for something we are unable to change about ourselves. I have worked hard on my healing and am very far along compared to where I was. Yet, I still struggle in certain areas. It is nice to know it is not my fault…that I am not simply “failing” in some way.